In the Jewish tradition, mourning for the passing of a loved one is gradually scaled down with specific milestones, making it easier to reach closure and move on with life, yet still remember. The milestones : The first week of Shiva, the first month, the unveiling, the first year memorial service as a formal closure of mourning, and then the annual Yahrtzeit. Visitation of the graveside, a religious mitzva of the highest order, is another way to keep that person alive in our heart. In addition to any special visitation days,, family members routinely try to visit the gravesite on the day of the eve of Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur, Shavuot, and Pesach. Each visit is marked by placing a small stone on the top right hand corner of the gravestone. At the same time, an equal effort is made to keep the deceased very much alive in the heart of the family and friends. Children are named after the deceased to keep their memory alive. Tzedakah in memory of the deceased is a fundamental way Jews honor their dead.

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